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Give your Life a Tune-Up!

I want to share with you once again my article on how to make your life better by making simple changes.  I believe it is  a great read to start off the new year.

Wishing you all a happy and blessed 2014!!

Love,

Darlene

Give your Life a Tune-Up!.

 

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Give your Life a Tune-Up!

If I tell you that I can go back and read on what I was doing and how I was feeling on a DAILY basis from the year 2002 up to 2004, you would probably think that I am crazy.  Crazy for “wasting” my time writing everything down and/or crazy for going back and reading it years later.  Too much time in my hands?  At times, yes.  At other times, just curiosity as to: “I wonder what I was doing on this day two years ago?”

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The one thing that I learned, aside from the fact that I used to spend a lot of time eating, was that whatever was hurting me back then, makes me laugh now.  I would often waste my time overthinking about what I see now as insignificant matters.  Have you ever been there?  For example, have you ever found a letter you wrote to an ex that you never gave to him or her and then realized “Uff…I am so glad I didn’t.”?  Priorities and perspectives change with time and that is one of the beauties of our life cycles.  One lesson to take from these moments where you glimpse at the past is that life will bring you pain and disappointments, but it is how you see, react and swing at these curveballs, what will eventually lead you through them.  One of my favorite sayings is that, “Everything happens for a reason”.  When we look back at the past and how we reacted to certain circumstances, we feel that we would have reacted differently if we would have known that at the end, everything was going to be just fine.  Still, those moments are what made us who we are today.  We live, we learn, we grow and we keep on moving.  As to the present:  I want to share with you what I believe can make your life a little better 🙂

ME TIME!!!

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These are the moments when you find yourself saying, “I need a break from everything.” I call mine ‘Darla time’ and by now my friends and family should know what this means, okay? 🙂 Although it can seem selfish, the truth is that these moments are important for you to communicate with yourself and listen to your needs.  Analyze how balanced your life is, or if there is a lack of.
Forget about work, politics, deadlines, blahs and blahs.  Yep, forget about everything but yourself.  Focus on your “NOW”,  on what makes you happy in this precise moment. What would you love to do? It can be another job or a hobby. It could be a trip or going to eat to that restaurant that you have been wanting to go to on  a “special occasion”.  Write these down and just start planning.  I don’t call it a bucket list because these are more simple and immediate things that you could be doing on a weekly and even daily basis to make your life a little brighter.  I went through a phase where everything was driving me crazy, especially myself. I was bored, uncertain about the future and pretty much just crawling through life.  As I was having one of these ‘Darla times’, I realized I wanted to start writing again.  It has kept me busy, entertained and happy as I get to express myself through something I really enjoy. Whether it’s painting, meditation, dancing, soccer, scrapbooking, playing an instrument, walking on your tip toes, skipping, or collecting pennies you find on the street, find something you enjoy and just do it.  Don’t ever think they are silly things.  If you like it.  Go for it!  Take this time to also think about what is not making you happy anymore and start letting go.  You can see examples on these as you keep reading.

BYE BYE JOB!!!
Title sounds great, right. Well, if you love what you do, then it shouldn’t sound great.  I know that finding a job during these times is not easy.  I am not telling you to go and quit your job just because you hate it.  But if you are miserable at work, I suggest you start looking for another way of making your money.  I know it is not that easy but “impossible” it is NOT.  Think about what you would love to be doing.  What would make YOU happy?  Then start researching all the possibilities.  The worst that can happen is that you find nothing, but at least you tried.  The best that can happen is that you end up quitting your yucky job and start getting paid doing something you truly LOVE.

SPIRITUALITY

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Find something you believe in and go to it when life gets tough.  Whichever religious beliefs you have or even when you don’t, it is a matter of having something that you can look at that will bring you a sense of peace and faith.  It can even be found through music.  Aside from entertaining, I truly believe that music has a great power of healing and therapy.  We all have that song that once it is played, our mood suddenly becomes lighter and happier!
Prayer has also been one of my escapes.  It is in times of turmoil that I found sanity and hope through prayer.  I read a lot of books and enjoy the words by preachers like Joel Osteen.  I have learned that God will not hand you anything that you cannot handle and at the end of the day, he has a plan for you.   Positivity is a must and I definitely understand how hard it is to see it at times.  Walking away from ugly thoughts is a must.  I try to use the word “cancelado”,  Spanish word for ‘cancelled’, everytime a negative thought crosses my mind. It sounds silly but it actually works!!  And talking about staying positive…lets go to the next thought:

WALK AWAY FROM NEGATIVE RELATIONSHIPS

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Keeping negative people away will make your life so much lighter.  Just a couple of months ago I was backstabbed by a so called friend and it is strange how I cried for five minutes and then a sense of peace invaded my life.  For years I had my doubts about this person and suddenly, it all became clear to me.  Negative people and negative thoughts will keep away the good from your life so let go so you can let in.
The same goes with love relationships.  Do not settle for someone that is not going to love and respect you the way that you should be.  I went through this and when things did not work out I felt my world was going to collapse.  Now,  I cannot be happier and I am grateful that it happened because now I appreciate that love and respect that I am receiving.  I’m a happy girl!  Everyone should be able to feel this, but it takes letting go of what does not feel right.

GO OUT!!

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Yep, go out hiking, shopping, jogging, drinking, dancing, singing!  Be loud, get crazy, laugh, eat, be silly, catch up with friends. As long as you are being responsible, especially with the whole drinking and driving, there is nothing wrong with happy hour in the middle of a crazy work week.  Take that break.  These are great ways of letting the stress out, venting to friends and just loosening up.   Have you ever gotten an invitation out, you said yes and then you started regretting it because you felt tired and didn’t feel like getting dressed?  Then, you feel bad because you said you would go or because they are already downstairs picking you up, so you get up and you go.  From nights like these sometimes come the best moments in your life.  You recharged some energy and end up being glad that you went out.  Appreciate the little things and moments in life.

STAY HEALTHY
Yep, it’s not all fun and games!  In my experience, my mood swings become pretty apparent when I have not done any type of exercise or if I have indulged in too many slices of pizza.  Once you stop your exercise routine for a while, it can become hard to start again but once you do, your energy level and mood take a hike all the way to the I Feel Really Good mountain top rock.   Combine it with some healthy intake and you are good to go!

LOVE, GIVE, SMILE
Being able to love the people around you is definitely a way to make the world and your own world a little better.  Stay away from Ignorance as it is the main cause for Judgment and Prejudice, two of the uggliest things anyone can carry inside.  Don’t judge the person that is next to you wearing those dirty, stinky clothes.  You don’t know if he/she lost her house and this is pretty much part of what was left.  Change your negative attitudes towards people, traffic, little situations you encounter on a daily basis.  There is always someone out there that has something worse going on in their lives, much worse than being stuck behind a slow driver, a red light or a boring meeting.  If you are able to spend $10.00 on a glass of wine at the bar, don’t hesitate when the opportunity comes for you to donate to a local charity or to a friend in need.  By becoming more positive as to how you react to certain situations that can affect someone else or yourself, you are already making this world a better place.

BALANCE

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As a Libra woman that I am, balance is a key ingredient in my life.  At times it can get hard to get to it but we should make an effort to make it happen.  An unbalanced life could lead to sickness, too much stress, broken relationships with people that we love, among other situations.  When you become a workaholic and forget about family, friends and your own interests, life can become pretty dull and hectic.  I am a lucky girl when I get to say that I have an amazing family that has always been there for me.  You can be replaced in the position you are the minute you walk away from a job, but you will never be able to be replaced in your family and friend’s life.  Spend time with your spouse, kids, grandkids, siblings, parents, grandparents, friends.  There is no greater love in life than the one you receive from your family,  as well as your chosen family:  your friends.
Nobody should tell you what makes you happy.  This is something that only you know.  These are my thoughts on the subject and I hope that you can take something from these lines, written from the bottom of my heart.
I will end this with one of my favorites … “DON’T FORGET TO SMILE!”

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Sweet Little Things!

I am not trying to be Mother Teresa of Calcutta here but I do want to throw out some positive thoughts and energy your way. Life is about the little things…

As a little girl my parents would always take my siblings and me to Sunday Night Mass at Parroquia Buen Pastor in Guaynabo, Puerto Rico. Our Sundays consisted of going to the beach, attending the 7:00 P.M. mass and then going out for ice cream to Thomas Sweet’s. To this day, I have not found ice cream that tastes as good as that one. The one that comes closest to it is the DQ Blizzard of my preference… chocolate ice cream with peantus, M&M’s and Oreo cookies. Hmmmm…. ok… focus on the purpose of my writing, not my sudden appetite for dessert.

These were my Sundays growing up. Life was about enjoying those simple moments; swimming in the ocean all day, sitting next to my family at church and then enjoying those extra calories in a pre-teen body that didn’t care about this delicious intake.

As an adult that I believe I am now (sometimes I have my doubts 🙂 ) my like for the beach has only become stronger. It is my dream and I have faith it will come true, that I will have that place at the beach where I can come home to everyday and refuel. The beach was and will continue to be a huge part of my life.

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In regards to the ice cream part of my past, well, lets just say that I am focused in maintaining healthy eating habits, but if you want to send some sweet treats this way…DQ it is!! I can’t believe I started with Mother Teresa and now I am craving ice cream.

Living in Los Angeles for ten years, I met people from different cultures and religious beliefs. I started questioning my own beliefs. I visited Buddhist temples, Kabbalah centers and Non-Denominational churches as part of my internal research. I have come to realize that I am simply a Spiritual person who believes in GOD. In so many ways, I have received confirmation that he DOES exist and little by little, through my blogs, I want to tell you these stories, some of them hard to believe.

I like to attend different places of worship, as long as they bring awareness and pay respect to the Lord Jesus Christ. When I am in Miami, I attend Mother of Our Redeemer Catholic Church. It is Pastor Father Jimmy, also a friend of the family, who has now brought my attention back to listening and really understanding the weekly sermons. I went from thinking about the ice cream I would be having after church, to truly absorbing the message I will take home with me.

After this past Sunday’s sermon, I learned and really understood that as adults we still have those little things in life that can make us happy and less stressed. It could still be ice cream, it could be sitting watching your favorite television show with your family, it could be listening to your favorite song on the radio and even receiving a smile from a complete stranger. We should not make life solely about the ‘big picture’, about wanting that big house by the beach, that big promotion at work or your kids getting a scholarship to the best University out there. Life is about those moments in between, the simple and little ones that make every minute of your life more enjoyable. I am not saying that we should stop thinking about the big picture, not at all. I am just saying that we should enjoy the ride towards those dreams and aspirations.

Through this post I simply want to remind you of this the same way Father Jimmy reminded me last Sunday. Smile at the stranger, don’t judge the angry driver that just cut you off, be patient with that red traffic light.

I wish you all an amazing week. Be blessed. Be happy…. and don’t forget to smile because at the end of the day… Everything is going to be allright!

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With Love,

Darlene

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Never Give Up

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So many times in life we get discouraged by external factors. My family does not have the resources or the contacts. I am too fat. I am too skinny. I am too tall. I am too short. I am not as pretty as her. I am not as built as him. The reality is that the opportunities in life are endless and there is room for every color, shape or situation.

When I decided to pursue a career in what had been my hobby for so many years, I knew that the road would be difficult. Deciding to move to Los Angeles and pursue acting was far away from my comfort. Still, even when there were no Actors, Singers, Artists, Producers, Directors, Writers, Investors, etc… in my family, no one to help me cut the line, I knew I wanted to go and chase that urge, that passion.  I left to study acting, find an agent and start auditioning in the Actor’s Disney World… Hollywood. I was discouraged so many times by people back home. They would tell me there was going to be too much competition. Their other argument was that I should stay closer to what I already knew (my hometown of San Juan, Puerto Rico or Miami, Florida, which is where I finished college). But, my heart was pushing me to go and see what was out there for me.

I am not planning to write a book of my life…yet… so I will keep this simple. I lived in Los Angeles for ten years, back and forth because of different situations life threw at me…mostly positive. I could say that many things I was afraid of did happen. The story of the young actress that moves  to LA and then is “seduced” by that “manager” that wants to represent her is one of the many stereotypes that I did experience. But just as I did with that one, in every other situation I was able to carry myself with maturity and I never lost myself or my values. Nobody should lose themselves in the process of trying to “make it” in any business. Unfortunately, we see that too often, especially with the younger ones in Hollywood. I held my ground and to this day it is one of my proudest decisions. I could go on and on with stories.

Life threw a curve ball at me (that will be for another post) and now I sit here in Florida writing these lines. It has been a transitional year for me where I had to step back and figure out how I was going to approach that ball.  Do you ever have those moments when you feel discouraged, still unsure as to what direction you want to take? My direction will be to keep going forward. It is about maintaining the faith that God has a plan for you and that as long as you are persistent and what you do comes from a good place in your heart, then there is no reason to fear.

I want to introduce to you, in case you haven’t seen them yet, to FORTE….

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I have been supporting this group since they started participating in America’s Got Talent. Aside from the fact that I know one of the member’s brothers and that they are very talented, I believe that there had to be another reason I felt so drawn to them. Later I read a post by member Fernando Varela and it spoke to me. He wrote about the times in life when one is rejected, when you loose something right when it was so close to you, but then you just keep going and eventually that moment comes when things just start working out for you. Everything you have endured leads to that point and then you realize that the best plan in your life has been to NOT GIVE UP.

And that was it. That was when I was reminded, and God knows that I needed that,  that for us that work in this business or in ANY business, it is a matter of moving on. Take rejection, take criticism and then move on. The day will come when you will see your dreams come true. It could be to have a child, to have your own business, to travel to Greece, get a movie or a record deal. In life you have to be persistent and always do what you love.

I have struggled and struggled trying to become a respected Actress. Guess what? I was not in Spielberg’s or Almodovar’s latest movie, but I have worked, I am working and I will continue working.  And because it is about doing things that you love and make you happy, I have recently started Writing again. It has been in my heart for a long time and now I plan to dedicate more time to put into words the spirals that I have in my head.

Congratulations to FORTE for making it all the way to the finals. It is not about the outcome, but the process. They did not win the final prize but won the hearts of so many people like myself. I know that they will continue to be successful and the best is yet to come.  I am glad that Fernando never gave up!

God Bless

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